Don’t Waste Valentine’s Day Mourning Lost Love: Celebrate the Love in Your Life Now!

Valentine’s Day can be a sad holiday for women – or men, for that matter – going through or recovering from divorce because it is a painful reminder of lost love.

Women are conditioned to feel complete only if there is a man in our lives, and if that man gives us the goodies that are supposed to prove his affection, not just to us, but to the world on Valentine’s Day.

Throw away the Kleenex, sister!

If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, celebrate the love that you have in your life right now and have a blast! 

Celebrate the Love In Your Life Now

Celebrate the Love of the Self

You’ve heard the commandment: love your neighbor as yourself. 

Keywords: “as yourself.”

Loving yourself is as important as loving (and being loved by) others.

Women are conditioned to put others above themselves: husbands, children, her parents, his parents – the list goes on. Yet, how often do you express self-love? And do you feel guilty when you do?

Make Valentine’s Day the day you begin to put yourself first and give yourself a little love.

Here are some easy ideas:

• Buy yourself flowers the week before Valentine’s Day, before prices go up, and enjoy their beauty for days before the holiday. 

• Go to the spa or even better – turn your home into a spa and treat yourself to a scented bubble bath with candles, music, a glass of wine, a hair and facial treatment, and emerge feeling like a goddess.

• Buy yourself a beautiful piece of jewelry to represent your unwavering commitment to putting yourself first. Remember those right-hand rings that were popular 15 years ago? Women of the world, raise your right hands!

• Treat yourself to the book you’ve been dying to read and don’t stop until you’re finished!

Celebrate the Love of Family

With schedules so busy, we are often running around trying to please everybody in a frantic state of rush.

In the midst of the madness, do you enjoy quality time with the people you love? Maybe you don’t, so on Valentine’s Day, try slowing down and enjoying one another without fuss.

What things do you enjoy doing together that you don’t do often enough? 

Then just do it! After doing something nice for yourself, that is!

• Order take-out and spend time having fun with your children–make Valentine’s Day crafts or bake cookies together.
• Have a special date with your pet! Take your dog for a long walk in the woods, a play date at the park or curl up with your kitty and watch your favorite movie.
• Do you wish you could spend more time with your parents or other relatives? Reach out and make Valentine’s Day plans. Enjoy family traditions without the pressure and toxicity of major holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas.

Celebrate the love of friends

You’re not the only single chick out there…

Why not collect all the single souls – both male and female – for a Valentine-free bash?

Have each guest bring a festive dish and a small present and have a secret-cupid gift exchange.

Go around the room and share bad-date stories for a good laugh, and feel grateful for each other’s company instead of enduring another dating disaster.

Most importantly, become the love you want to receive

Loving people are love magnets. Don’t wait for others to give you the love you long for.

Expressing love to others is the most effective way to bring love into your life. 

Get started!

• Do something nice for a stranger. Give a free candy bar to the person behind you at the check out counter. A random act of kindness will put YOU in a loving state that will feed your soul and erase feelings of loneliness and unlovability.

• Volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. Performing acts of kindness make us realize how blessed we are and invites us to be grateful for the things we do have instead of focusing on what we lack. Doing nice things for others takes the focus off our limitations and puts us in a happier state of mind.

• Have a fun date with a child! Do you have a friend or relative with a delightful young kid? Offer to babysit and play with the child, play like a child! Do something you enjoyed doing when you were a kid! Your friend will be grateful for the couple’s time with his or her significant other and you will feel great about yourself.

Turn kindness into a daily practice and feel the joy of love rush through you non-stop.

These are just a few ideas, but the possibilities are endless!

 What makes you feel joy? Go ahead and do it! Celebrate love – on Valentine’s Day and every day of the year!