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Name: bella123 New Member   Title: How do I modify Divorce Papers?

In Sept 2007 I filed for a divorce without children, and didnt ask for alimoney, this was done in Riverside---I moved to San Diego and want to change the paperwork and collect alimony.
Due to the fact i am now seeing a therapist who is helping me with my self-esteem issues, etc. I went through 15years of physical and emotional abuse and am a survivor---I feel now, since I am broken and need to get my self confidence back I need to be supported.

What papers do I have to refile and do I have to go back to Riverside to do it or can I do it in San DIego?

Thanks

Name: Maria Atkinson RCS-D New Member

Is there a legal hotline you can call in your area?

Name: bella123 New Member

The papers never got served, it was on hold. My mothr in law died, so like an idiot, I went to help him deal with it, he said he changed and acted nice for about 2 months, I have been here for about 8 months. He is not physically abusive but totally verbally and emotionally, where my self esteem is shot.....we argue constantly....

I am seeing a therapist, who is great, but 1 hour a week is not the cure. I need to get divorced and I want to leave so bad.....but I have no job or money and the last thing I want is to be the needy person who needs a place to stay, and the shelters are filled up.

I am going to be self sufficient, I just need some advise on this divorce thing and how do I change the papers so that I can get alimony just to get back on my feet, which is the last thing he wants for me.

So I filed in a city about 150 miles away and want to modify my paperwork, it was originally filed in Sept 2007 and expires in Sept 2010.

I called an attorney a couple of them and they charge for consultations.

Thanks!!!!

Name: madalex Member

Is your divorce final? If so, modifying it now to get alimony is going to be very difficult. Alimony is intended to allow the receiving spouse an opportunity to get back on her feet financially following a divorce. If you have been supporting yourself for two years without alimony, you do not have much of a case for arguing that you need it now. Regardless of what your therapist might tell you, "getting your self-confidence back" is not a legitimate basis on which to be awarded alimony.