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Name: pauladw New Member   Title: Co-parenting concerns - HIGH CONFLICT

My ex husband of 6 years and i have a VERY high conflict situation. We have joint custody of 2 children.

I divorced him and he has carried A LOT OF ANGER towards me for 6 years now, even though he has remarried.

A few years ago he was charged and convicted of assaulting me, (after our divorce) and he did one year probation and there was a one year restraining order.

It is extremely difficult to communicate with him, he seems to just do what ever he wants and has little respect for the separation agreement or me.. He can be very irrational, and unreasonable! It is absolutely disasterous trying to have any conversation with him.

For example, we have a very detailed separ, agreement. This summer was my turn to choose vacation first. We spoke about that, and then he went behind my back and planned a 2 week vacation out of the country in the summer, without my consent, and before i chose my weeks. He knew he was supposed to wait until i chose first, but he doesnt care. He now expects me to just sign the consent letter, because he says the trip has been booked.

It is very very difficult to have a reasonable discussion for him, it ALWAYS turns into a heated arguement.

I have 10 more years of co-parenting with him, but the last 6 years have been hell and extremely stressful.

What can i do to help this situation?

Can i get sole custody and would this help?

Name: The Parentectomy New Member

Your children need both parents. Try to see a co-parenting specialist as soon as you can. Taking sole custody of the children will only provoke your ex further and it doesn't help your children to lose parenting time with their father.

Name: NatalieAtSGO New Member

Hello. I am so sorry that you are in this situation. Probably the best thing you could do would be to use the internet to correspond with your ex. My suggestion would to look into a website like the one I work for. The company I work for has a software called Shared Ground Online that allows people to create a parenting plan that can be accessed online. When changes are made to the calendar and automatic email is generated to both parents. This would be a good alternative for you. You would know he receives notice and you'd have a documented email you could print.

Hopefully, if you use a product/service like this, you would be able to eliminate a lot of the abusive behavior your ex is throwing toward you.

I hope this helps you.

Natalie