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Name: haley min pin   Title: geting on with my life

I was married for 22 years and just went through divorce in June 07 and he is getting remarried in June with somebody he works with . He wants are kids to be involed in this marriage and I feel that they should not be apart of this . I was only sixteen when we had gotten married and he was 20 I had quit school and now I have to go back just to get a job and it is very hard to learn everything all over. we always worked different shifts when we were married until 2003 I had lost my job and was a stay home mom . We never really argue that much until now he has become so bitter towards me. I do not denied that there was some things that had cause some of this . we had struggle with having nothing until he had gotten a job at Honda and from ther on he was making the money and now he feels like he is better than me and he thinks I never contributed with were he is at today . so how do I get over him nad enjoy my life .I dont go out on dates because I feel nobody wants me and Im not pretty does anybody have any advice to move on and how to

Name: mbrand12 New Member

What I meant was maybe allowing the children to be a part of the wedding isnt a bad idea.

Name: mbrand12 New Member

Hello haley min pin,
I know this may sound painfully crazy, and hard to swallow, however it may not be a bad idea to allow the childrent to be a part of the marriage. Because you were married for over 20 years, I assume that your children are at least of age to make many decisions for themselves. Maybe you should sit and discuss with your children to see if they want to be a part of the marriage or not. Without saying hurtful words towards their father, see what their feelings are. After all, it is not the childrens fault the marriage ended in divorce. Trust me, you will indeed move on with your life in time, and I know you will be able to achieve goals, and create a new, happy life for yourself. Best of luck.

Name: august3584 New Member

First of all, who gives a rat's behind what he feels or thinks? Your self worth does not lie in what he thinks. Just the fact that he HAS to make you feel this way shows his insecurity, not yours. If he were a person with any character he would treat the mother of his children with dignity and respect. Just pull yourself together, go to church and pray for strength if you must , and get on with your life. You only have one life and you will regret the time you spent worrying about this now insignificant person and the control you have given him over your life. Don't make it more difficult that it is. As the Nike saying goes, "JUST DO IT". Be happy.