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Name: bugs bunny New Member   Title: wife's affair

I live in Onatrio Canada. My wife has asked me for a separation. About a week later, I discovered she has been having an affair for the past 6 years. Once the separation is legal, i understand i could file for divorce on the basis of her adultery. Would she have to agree to sign a legal document, indicating she confesses her adultery?

Name: Shamrocker New Member

I recently found out that my wife of 25 years has been having an affair for 2 years with a summer neighbor. They have yet to admit the affair, for legal reasons, but I have enough proof and they have all but admitted it by not denying it. We have 4 kids from 23 - 15. I have asked her through our lawyers (we are in the divorce process for last 6 months) to set up a clinical setting to tell the kids, so that they can be observed and counseled. Her response was that they wouldn't find out! The community where we have spent the summer is all abuzz over the affair. There is no way they won't find out in a haphazard way in the next couple of weeks. What to do? My wife and her lover are both living in a fantasy world, have every intention of being together after our divorce. (He has yet to file! intersting?) Do I continue to keep my mouth shut and put my kids at risk for a big social embarassment in this community and perhaps worse or do I tell her that "You tell them or I will!" It is really more complicated than this but don't have the time... addiction, stealing, lying, etc.

Name: jacquejo New Member

i am in the negotiating phases with the lawyers from what i hav learned if you sue her for divirce you pay the court costs as well suing for divorce doesnt change custody rights or alimony what it does is it effects the persons name therefore most go for seperation what i am looking for is what do i say to the kids i caught her and followd my lwyers advice now i hav nasty phone calls from the kids saying its not true i have to be the responsible parent and even if i wanted to i can not go telling the kids certain things but seems like my wife is doing everything she can to say what a chmuck i am any ideas

Name: hlthylife New Member

if you find out the answer let me know...i hv a similar situation
how are going to prove in court shes had an affair bugs
does it change any financial commitment if one can prove that she acted on her boyfriends advise so why shld i bear the liabilities?