DivorceMag: Poll Results

FOR WOMEN: Do you think that 50/50 custody should be the starting point in divorce law, and only adjusted based on special circumstances (e.g. abuse)?

NO

142 votes

YES

268 votes

410 total votes

FOR MEN: Do you think that 50/50 custody should be the starting point in divorce law, and only adjusted based on special circumstances (e.g. abuse)?

NO

37 votes

YES

256 votes

293 total votes

FOR MEN: Will you be spending time with your children this holiday season?

Poll Closed: Jan 13, 2010

Yes, I have my child/children most of the time.

18 votes

Yes, my spouse/ex has my child/children most of the time.

17 votes

No, I have my child/children most of the time.
No votes
No, my spouse/ex has my child/children most of the time.

13 votes

48 total votes

FOR WOMEN: Will you be spending time with your children this holiday season?

Poll Closed: Jan 13, 2010

Yes, I have my child/children most of the time.

67 votes

Yes, my spouse/ex has my child/children most of the time.

7 votes

No, I have my child/children most of the time.

5 votes

No, my spouse/ex has my child/children most of the time.

8 votes

87 total votes

FOR MEN: Do you plan to hire a lawyer for your divorce?

Poll Closed: Sep 30, 2009

I plan to hire a divorce lawyer but haven't done so yet.

14 votes

I've already selected or hired a divorce lawyer.

13 votes

I haven't hired, nor do I plan to hire, a divorce lawyer.

16 votes

43 total votes

FOR WOMEN: Do you plan to hire a lawyer for your divorce?

Poll Closed: Sep 30, 2009

I plan to hire a divorce lawyer but haven't done so yet.

8 votes

I've already selected or hired a divorce lawyer.

12 votes

I haven't hired, nor do I plan to hire, a divorce lawyer.

15 votes

35 total votes

Have you ever been unfaithful to your partner?

Poll Closed: Apr 1, 2009

No, never.

237 votes

Yes, I have been unfaithful once.

26 votes

Yes, I have been unfaithful 2 to 4 times.

29 votes

Yes, I have been unfaithful 5 to 9 times.

11 votes

Yes, I have been unfaithful 10 times or more.

26 votes

329 total votes

FOR MEN: Do you think that divorce is morally acceptable?

Poll Closed: Oct 31, 2008

Yes

63 votes

No

42 votes

No opinion

3 votes

108 total votes

FOR WOMEN: Do you think that divorce is morally acceptable?

Poll Closed: Oct 31, 2008

Yes

83 votes

No

32 votes

No opinion

6 votes

121 total votes

FOR WOMEN: When looking for a lawyer for my divorce, the first place I would go to is

Poll Closed: May 22, 2008

the internet

12 votes

friends/relatives

27 votes

the yellow pages

2 votes

local newspapers/magazines

1 votes

local bar association

6 votes

others

5 votes

53 total votes

FOR MEN: When looking for a lawyer for my divorce, the first place I would go to is

Poll Closed: May 22, 2008

the internet

9 votes

friends/relatives

7 votes

the yellow pages

2 votes

local newspapers/magazines
No votes
local bar association

1 votes

others

5 votes

24 total votes

FOR MEN: Would you sleep with your ex after your divorce?

Poll Closed: Dec 31, 2007

Yes

125 votes

No

135 votes

Don't know

31 votes

291 total votes

FOR WOMEN: Would you sleep with your ex after your divorce?

Poll Closed: Dec 31, 2007

Yes

55 votes

No

180 votes

Don't know

26 votes

261 total votes

FOR WOMEN: How long did you (or will you) wait after your divorce to start dating again?

Poll Closed: Jul 18, 2007

Immediately

164 votes

1 to 3 months

88 votes

3 to 6 months

83 votes

6 to 12 months

106 votes

More than 1 year

294 votes

735 total votes

FOR MEN: How long did you (or will you) wait after your divorce to start dating again?

Poll Closed: Jul 18, 2007

Immediately

113 votes

1 to 3 months

48 votes

3 to 6 months

36 votes

6 to 12 months

45 votes

More than 1 year

98 votes

340 total votes

FOR WOMEN: What caused your separation/divorce? (Choose the strongest factor)

Poll Closed: Oct 31, 2006

Money problems

67 votes

Communication problems

209 votes

Basic incompatibility

144 votes

Infidelity

253 votes

Emotional or physical abuse

199 votes

One spouse was a workaholic

32 votes

Drug addiction/alcoholism

91 votes

Stress of home renovations

13 votes

Changes in appearance

25 votes

1033 total votes

FOR MEN: What caused your separation/divorce? (Choose the strongest factor)

Poll Closed: Oct 31, 2006

Money problems

30 votes

Communication problems

118 votes

Basic incompatibility

132 votes

Infidelity

92 votes

Emotional or physical abuse

55 votes

One spouse was a workaholic

11 votes

Drug addiction/alcoholism

25 votes

Stress of home renovations

7 votes

Changes in appearance

11 votes

481 total votes

WOMEN: Before your separation/divorce, who was responsible for handling money matters (e.g., selecting and writing checks for insurance, mortgage, loans, credit cards, regular household bills, etc.)?

Poll Closed: May 19, 2005

I handled all of it

1433 votes

I handled most of it

563 votes

We shared the tasks equally

364 votes

He handled most of it

611 votes

He handled all of it

1520 votes

4491 total votes

MEN: Before your separation/divorce, who was responsible for handling money matters (e.g., selecting and writing checks for insurance, mortgage, loans, credit cards, regular household bills, etc.)?

Poll Closed: May 19, 2005

I handled all of it

1738 votes

I handled most of it

657 votes

We shared the tasks equally

327 votes

She handled most of it

542 votes

She handled all of it

537 votes

3801 total votes

WOMEN: Would you consider dating a single parent with joint or full custody of school-aged children?

Poll Closed: Feb 13, 2004

Yes. I'm a single parent, too.

435 votes

Yes. I have no dependant children.

187 votes

No -- although I'm a single parent myself.

172 votes

No: I have no dependant children.

357 votes

1151 total votes

MEN: Would you consider dating a single parent with joint or full custody of school-aged children?

Poll Closed: Feb 13, 2004

Yes. I'm a single parent, too.

302 votes

Yes. I have no dependant children.

119 votes

No -- although I'm a single parent myself.

158 votes

No: I have no dependant children.

323 votes

902 total votes

WOMEN: Do you use the Internet to check out professionals before hiring them?

Poll Closed: Nov 27, 2003

Always. I want to know as much as possible about the person and/or firm.

179 votes

Sometimes. If it's a serious project/job, I check them out.

122 votes

Never. I rely on other sources to help me make the right decision.

97 votes

398 total votes

MEN: Do you use the Internet to check out professionals before hiring them?

Poll Closed: Nov 27, 2003

Always. I want to know as much as possible about the person and/or firm.

141 votes

Sometimes. If it's a serious project/job, I check them out.

96 votes

Never. I rely on other sources to help me make the right decision.

100 votes

337 total votes

WOMEN: Would you consider a "nesting" custody arrangement? In nesting, the children of divorced parents live in the family home while their parents take turns moving in and out.

Poll Closed: Sep 30, 2003

Yes: I would consider it.

371 votes

Yes: I am currently nesting.

20 votes

No: I would not consider it

975 votes

No: I tried it, and it didn't work.

28 votes

1394 total votes

MEN: Would you consider a "nesting" custody arrangement? In nesting, the children of divorced parents live in the family home while their parents take turns moving in and out.

Poll Closed: Sep 30, 2003

Yes: I would consider it.

333 votes

Yes: I am currently nesting.

13 votes

No: I would not consider it

502 votes

No: I tried it, and it didn't work.

23 votes

871 total votes

WOMEN: If you could change the past, would you still be getting (or have gotten) divorced?

Poll Closed: Aug 7, 2003

No. Divorce was the WRONG decision.

205 votes

Yes: Divorce was the RIGHT decision.

402 votes

607 total votes

MEN: If you could change the past, would you still be getting (or have gotten) divorced?

Poll Closed: Aug 7, 2003

No. Divorce was the WRONG decision.

224 votes

Yes: Divorce was the RIGHT decision.

266 votes

490 total votes

WOMEN: Do you believe that marriage is a life-long commitment that should only be ended under extreme circumstances?

Poll Closed: Mar 28, 2003

No. People change and grow apart over time, and you shouldn't be trapped in an unhappy marriage.

356 votes

Maybe. People should try harder to save their marriage before divorcing, though.

562 votes

Yes. I've never been married, and I believe marriage should be for life.

333 votes

Yes. I'm separated/divorced, but I still believe marriage should be for life.

521 votes

1772 total votes

MEN: Do you believe that marriage is a life-long commitment that should only be ended under extreme circumstances?

Poll Closed: Mar 28, 2003

No. People change and grow apart over time, and you shouldn't be trapped in an unhappy marriage.

264 votes

Maybe. People should try harder to save their marriage before divorcing, though.

324 votes

Yes. I've never been married, and I believe marriage should be for life.

312 votes

Yes. I'm separated/divorced, but I still believe marriage should be for life.

336 votes

1236 total votes

WOMEN: When should you start dating again?

Poll Closed: Jan 15, 2003

As soon as you're separated.

132 votes

Six to twelve months after separation.

239 votes

Not until the divorce is final.

388 votes

Never: I've had it with relationships!

66 votes

825 total votes

MEN: When should you start dating again?

Poll Closed: Jan 15, 2003

As soon as you're separated.

375 votes

Six to twelve months after separation.

149 votes

Not until the divorce is final.

388 votes

Never: I've had it with relationships!

66 votes

978 total votes

WOMEN: Would you leave your partner if you discovered he/she were having an affair?

Poll Closed: Nov 29, 2002

Yes. I have my reasons.

122 votes

Yes. I'd never trust him again.

423 votes

Maybe. I'd try marriage counseling first, though.

344 votes

Maybe. I'm having an affair, too!

42 votes

No. This relationship is better than being alone.

24 votes

No. We have an 'open' marriage/relationship.

19 votes

974 total votes

MEN: Would you leave your partner if you discovered he/she were having an affair?

Poll Closed: Nov 29, 2002

Yes. I have my reasons.

101 votes

Yes. I'd never trust her again.

281 votes

Maybe. I'd try marriage counseling first, though.

84 votes

Maybe. I'm having an affair, too!

58 votes

No. This relationship is better than being alone.

42 votes

No. We have an 'open' marriage/relationship.

30 votes

596 total votes

WOMEN: What do you think the chances for a successful second marriage are?

Poll Closed: Oct 10, 2002

Great! I've learned from my mistakes and I'm more mature now

126 votes

Better than the first. I now know what it takes to have a successful relationship

285 votes

About the same as the first

94 votes

Worse than the first. There's a lot more baggage now

108 votes

Terrible! If the first marriage broke up, the second one will too

39 votes

652 total votes

MEN: What do you think the chances for a successful second marriage are?

Poll Closed: Oct 10, 2002

Great! I've learned from my mistakes and I'm more mature now

105 votes

Better than the first. I now know what it takes to have a successful relationship

171 votes

About the same as the first

104 votes

Worse than the first. There's a lot more baggage now

98 votes

Terrible! If the first marriage broke up, the second one will too

52 votes

530 total votes

Does living together (for more than one year) before marriage increase or reduce the chance of divorce?

Poll Closed: Aug 14, 2002

I lived with my spouse before marriage and we are now separated/divorced

306 votes

I did not live with my spouse before marriage and we are now separated/divorced

227 votes

I lived with my spouse before marriage and we are still married

111 votes

I did not live with my spouse before marriage and we are still married

101 votes

745 total votes

Which best describes your situation post-separation/divorce?

Poll Closed: Jul 4, 2002

I replaced some of the items (e.g., household goods, furniture, entertainment equipment, car, etc.) my ex-spouse kept when we split up

129 votes

I replaced most of the items my ex-spouse kept

37 votes

I replaced all of the items my ex-spouse kept

19 votes

I replaced all of the items my ex-spouse kept, and I bought some items I've always wanted

126 votes

311 total votes

WOMEN: When is the "right" time to have sex with a new partner?

Poll Closed: May 21, 2002

On the first date - and I hope he'll call again

56 votes

On the first date - but he probably won't call again

19 votes

After we're comfortable enough to discuss safe sex (4-8 dates)

652 votes

After 3-6 months of dating

360 votes

Not until we're engaged/married

292 votes

1379 total votes

MEN: When is the "right" time to have sex with a new partner?

Poll Closed: May 21, 2002

On the first date; if the sex is great, I might ask her out again

331 votes

On the first date - but I wouldn't ask for a second date

57 votes

After we're comfortable enough to discuss safe sex

528 votes

After 3-6 months of dating

122 votes

Not until we're engaged/married

154 votes

1192 total votes

What would you do if one of your friends started dating your ex?

Poll Closed: Mar 20, 2002

I'd try to get over my upset and re-establish our friendship

109 votes

I'd try to be happy they found each other

253 votes

I'd try to avoid speaking with them

258 votes

I'd never speak to that so-called "friend" again

236 votes

856 total votes

Since separation/divorce, have you considered cosmetic surgery (facelift, breast augmentation/reduction, hair replacement, liposuction, botox injections, etc.)?

Poll Closed: Jan 31, 2002

Yes, I've had it (female)

35 votes

Yes, I'm considering it (female)

60 votes

No, I have no interest (female)

121 votes

Yes, I've had it (male)

14 votes

Yes, I'm considering it (male)

35 votes

No, I have no interest (male)

84 votes

349 total votes

What is your coping strategy for dealing with holidays/special days (Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's Day, etc.)?

Poll Closed: Dec 31, 2001

Go away for a vacation

31 votes

See friends and/or family

207 votes

Go out to bars/clubs

18 votes

Start dating again

16 votes

Watch TV/videos/DVDs

49 votes

Stay in bed 'til it's over

71 votes

392 total votes

What caused your separation/divorce? (Choose the strongest factor)

Poll Closed: Oct 31, 2001

Money problems

74 votes

Communication problems

248 votes

Basic incompatibility

176 votes

Infidelity

330 votes

Emotional or physical abuse

164 votes

One spouse was a workaholic

32 votes

Drug addiction/alcoholism

85 votes

Drug addiction/alcoholism

9 votes

Stress of home renovations

26 votes

1144 total votes

What's the worst thing about being separated/divorced?

Poll Closed: Aug 28, 2001

The loneliness

238 votes

Decreased standard of living/money

122 votes

Lack of sex/physical contact

67 votes

Loss of self-esteem

79 votes

Losing friends

20 votes

Fear of dating

41 votes

Decreased contact with my kids

131 votes

Decreased contact with my kids

76 votes

Nothing: I love being single
No votes

774 total votes

What's the best thing about being separated/divorced?

Poll Closed: Jul 9, 2001

Freedom to be myself

163 votes

Financial independence

15 votes

Emotional independence

59 votes

Sex with new partners

28 votes

Not having to share anything

7 votes

Relief from nagging

32 votes

My home is tidy

10 votes

My home is tidy

54 votes

Nothing: I'd like to reconcile
No votes

368 total votes

Which area of divorce law most needs to be reformed?

Poll Closed: Jun 6, 2001

Distribution of property

32 votes

Child custody

86 votes

Child support

67 votes

Spousal support

46 votes

Grounds for divorce

78 votes

309 total votes

Have you had sex with your ex since your separation/divorce?

Poll Closed: May 2, 2001

No -- Never!

181 votes

No -- but I've been tempted

43 votes

Yes -- but just once

23 votes

Yes -- 2-5 times

32 votes

Yes -- more than 5 times

53 votes

332 total votes

Should people be able to sue their ex-spouse's lover for

Poll Closed: Apr 9, 2001

I am a WOMAN and I say YES

135 votes

I am a WOMAN and I say NO

100 votes

I am a MAN and I say YES

58 votes

I am a MAN and I say NO

54 votes

347 total votes

My #1 wish for the new year is to:

Poll Closed: Mar 6, 2001

Settle my divorce

52 votes

Gain custody of my children

23 votes

Make more money

57 votes

Start a new romance

46 votes

Get back together with my ex

17 votes

Get along with my ex

10 votes

Get my ex out of my life forever

25 votes

Get my ex out of my life forever
No votes

230 total votes

Did you buy your ex a gift this holiday?

Poll Closed: Jan 20, 2001

No

200 votes

Yes, from me

85 votes

Yes, in the name of my child/children

87 votes

372 total votes

How many affairs did you have before your divorce/separation?

Poll Closed: Dec 28, 2000

None and I am a woman

122 votes

1 to 4 times and I am a woman

42 votes

5 or more times and I am a woman

6 votes

None and I am a man

98 votes

1 to 4 times and I am a man

45 votes

5 or more times and I am a man

11 votes

324 total votes

What do you miss most about being married?

Poll Closed: Dec 5, 2000

Physical intimacy with my spouse

55 votes

Emotional intimacy with my spouse

96 votes

Financial security

42 votes

Sharing responsibility for decisions

16 votes

Daily contact with my kids

71 votes

Nothing! I'm happy being single

69 votes

349 total votes

How are your children handling your divorce?

Poll Closed: Nov 13, 2000

They are just fine

78 votes

They are somewhat upset/angry

85 votes

They are quite upset/angry

49 votes

They are extremely upset/angry

42 votes

254 total votes

Are your parents divorced?

Poll Closed: Oct 24, 2000

YES, and I'm divorced too

54 votes

YES, but I have never been divorced

57 votes

NO, but I am divorced

82 votes

NO, and I have never been divorced

67 votes

260 total votes

If you could change the past, would you still be getting (or have gotten) divorced?

Poll Closed: Oct 12, 2000

I am WOMAN and divorce was the RIGHT decision

115 votes

I am WOMAN and divorce was the WRONG decision

29 votes

I am a MAN and divorce was the RIGHT decision

60 votes

I am MAN and divorce was the WRONG decision

44 votes

248 total votes

Do you think having extra-marital

Poll Closed: Sep 28, 2000

I am WOMAN and I say YES

91 votes

I am WOMAN and I say NO

37 votes

I am MALE and I say YES

42 votes

I am MALE and I say NO

50 votes

220 total votes

Would you tell a friend if you knew his/her spouse was cheating on him/her?

Poll Closed: Sep 11, 2000

I am female and I say YES

109 votes

I am female and I say NO

21 votes

I am female and I say MAYBE

41 votes

I am male and I say YES

40 votes

I am male and I say NO

17 votes

I am male and I say MAYBE

16 votes

244 total votes

My divorce was...

Poll Closed: Aug 23, 2000

Ugly

134 votes

O.K.

101 votes

Friendly

33 votes

268 total votes

Did problems with your in-laws contribute to your separation/divorce?

Poll Closed: Aug 7, 2000

Yes! My in-laws were 100% responsible

10 votes

Yes! They were 75% responsible

18 votes

Somewhat -- they were 50% responsible

44 votes

Not really -- they were 25% responsible

25 votes

Not at all -- they had 0% responsibility

80 votes

177 total votes

Who initiated your separation/divorce?

Poll Closed: Jul 24, 2000

Husband

80 votes

Wife

106 votes

186 total votes

Would you leave your partner if you discovered he/she were having an affair?

Poll Closed: Jul 16, 2000

I am a man and my answer is YES

52 votes

I am a man and my anwser is NO

25 votes

I am a woman and my answer is YES

116 votes

I am a woman and my answer is NO

31 votes

224 total votes

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