Dr. Ronit Lami, a psychologist in Beverly Hills, answers: We enter our marriage thinking it will be forever, but somewhere along the way it doesn’t go exactly how we imagined it, and we find ourselves in the process of divorce. “Why?” we ask. After all we have invested in our marriage (time, energy, our whole […]
Divorce Process
How do I prepare for my divorce?
First take a deep breath and relax knowing that you will be prepared and that the better prepared you are the less stressful this marital dissolution will be. First Things First: Purchase a large spiral bound notebook and use it to take notes of conversations on the phone or in person with attorneys and […]
My divorce was finalized four months ago.
My divorce was finalized four months ago. My friends tell me I should start dating again, but I have two young children and I think I should just devote my life to raising them and hold off dating until they get older. Is that a healthy thing to do or should I take my friends’ advice and start dating?
If you are going through divorce, how can therapy be of benefit to you?
If you are thinking about or going through divorce, how can therapy be of benefit to you?
My spouse and I plan to divorce but have not started the process. What should we do first?
If you and your spouse plan to divorce but haven’t started yet, my recommendation is that the two of you sit down and talk and see if there’s any common ground between you. Can you agree as to who the kids will primarily live with; can you agree as to what the income is; can […]
How should I behave when I appear in court?
Remember, you can never be over prepared for court. Beyond reviewing the specifics with the attorney, other essential responsibilities of the client play a very vital role. Here are basic rules of thumb that will allow the client and the attorney to work as a successful team. Presentation: the client should always be very […]
New Jersey Divorce FAQs
If I file the initial complaint or summons do I have an advantage? It does not make any difference who files first in terms of what each party will obtain in the divorce by way of support or assets. It does make a difference in some cases because the one who files may have a […]
My spouse has had several affairs; it’s one of the reasons we split up. Can I use this against him in the divorce proceedings?
If your spouse has had several affairs, it depends on where you’re filing for divorce. In some states, proof of adultery can impact the division of property and even support. California, where I practice, is considered a “no fault” state. In other words, in California divorce law, you do not need grounds for a divorce, […]
Tips
“Tips” You can only control what you can only control. This is a very important statement to remember when you are going through the process. You can’t control your husband or your wife. You can’t control the court. You can’t control the process. You must only control what you can only control. Focus on what […]
Can I bring a relative or my best friend along with me when I meet with my lawyer?
Many clients wish to bring a friend or a relative with them when they meet with their lawyer, particularly for an initial consultation. Having a friend or a relative with you can be helpful to provide emotional and moral support. I frequently hear from potential clients at the first consultation that they brought a third […]
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