As they approached the holiday season, two women commiserated about their lives. “You know what we need?” Liz announced to her sister-in-law Maren. Both women had their stressors. “We need a girl’s night. Why don’t you—just you—come out to the shore, spend the weekend? We’ll shop in St. Michaels, a dog-friendly town.” Liz took her […]
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Loriann Oberlin
Loriann Oberlin, MS, LCPC is a licensed clinical professional counselor in Maryland. She's written "Surviving Separation and Divorce," "Overcoming Passive-Aggression," "The Angry Child," and two women's fiction novels under the pen name Lauren Monroe. "Second Chances: Book Two of The Maryland Shores" includes separation and divorce.
In her therapy practice, Ms. Oberlin has worked with children, teens, couples and families to help them before, during and after separation and divorce. Oberlin has completed divorce mediation and child access training, Gottman couples counseling workshops as well as collaborative law practice training in Maryland where she has two offices, outside of Washington DC and on the Eastern Shore.
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5 Tips to Live the Holiday You Want This Holiday Season
I’ve done much research and writing on the topic of hiding anger. I’ve found that when you’re dealing with difficult people, perhaps you’ve actually collected these characters into your life because you haven’t been assertive enough. In other words, you have become a people pleaser. It’s especially difficult during the holidays season. Be determined to […]
11 Tips to Simplify the Holidays
Holidays are stressful times with six weeks of excess, taxed budgets, and too much to do. If you’re separated or divorced, be careful of setting completely unrealistic expectations. These tips below have been excerpted from Surviving Separation and Divorce by Loriann Oberlin, MS. Your tree isn’t the only item that needs to be trimmed when you’re […]
4 Tips for Dating During Separation
Based upon my own journey through divorce, book research and work as a therapist, I say with certainty that those who are separated often crave validation and companionship to stave off loneliness. They often desire affection – especially after cold marriages without it – and sometimes, they desire just that…desire. These feelings are completely normal, but what […]
Separated and Scared Straight: Face Your Divorce Fears This Halloween
Halloween aside, getting separated can be scary. Learning how to handle your divorce fears is an important part of having a promising and healthy future.
Self Help or Therapy: How to Embrace Both
Years before I was a licensed counselor, I wrote non-fiction books. A few landed on the bookstore’s self-help, parenting, or psychology shelves. Devouring such books led me to both of my careers, and when I meet with clients who feel stuck, I sometimes recommend reading, and other self-help measures. I’ve gained a better understanding of […]
Dealing with a Difficult Ex
Many who are separated or divorced consider their ex to be pesky at one time or another. After all, you no longer live together presumably because you have two different world views and/or tensions have crept into your working relationship. An isolated disagreement or a harsh word between the two of you does not qualify […]
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