I cannot call fear a friend. Fear is a companion whose influence has only become clear to me in the last 10 years. It visits me regularly, invisible yet powerful. I have taped a sign right below my computer screen: “LET GO OF FEAR”. I seldom notice it, but every now and then it grabs […]
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Want to Stay Together? 4 Mistakes to Avoid When Faced with Divorce
If your spouse is considering a divorce, you may be sad and hurt. However, if you want to stay together, avoid these common mistakes.
Moving Through the Sadness: 3 Ways to Feel Joy During Divorce
When going through an intense emotional process like divorce, it’s good to allow ourselves to feel different emotions. Joy, for instance, can provide some needed relief from sadness. The other day while walking through the park near my house, I noticed a swing set. It seemed like the swings were calling to me. Still glancing back at […]
A Couples’ Mutual Gaze Is Crucial In A Relationship
A mutual gaze between you and your partner helps you learn to read and to know one another better, ultimately allowing you build a stronger relationship.
Is Your Emotional IQ Tank Running on Empty?
What is emotional IQ? And is your “emotional tank” is closer to empty than to full?
Best Advice for Divorce Recovery: Turn Off The News!
You’re meditating. You’re exercising. You’ve got a coach. Still, there’s a knot in your belly most of the time. What’s bringing you down? Most likely, it’s your own brain working against you. Here’s the thing: Your brain can’t discern good news from bad. It takes it all in, chaff and grain together, and whatever you […]
4 Strategies to Prevent Divorce
“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.” – Tom Mullen My favorite metaphor for what it’s like when two people get married is “two ticks and no dog”. In his book, The Marriage Builder, Dr. Larry Crabb introduced the concept of the “tick-on-a-dog” relationship. […]
Celebrate Lovers’ Interdependence Day
We all know that Independence Day on July 4th is a national holiday celebrating the fledgling American colonies’ declaration that they were no longer Britain’s satellite territory. The 13 colonies were “independent” and no longer connected to the mother ship, so to speak. Such clear boundaries can be made between national states (with or without […]
To Be Divorced, or Not to Be: That Is the Question
When Shakespeare originally asked the “To Be or Not To Be” question, he most likely didn’t have the subject of divorce on his mind. Sadly, it’s a question that we think about a lot more in this generation. As a divorce recovery coach, I know the heartache of divorce all too well — the sleepless […]
5 Ways Sticky Note Therapy Will Save Your Sanity During Divorce
Save your sanity during divorce? Is that possible? Yes, and it’s inexpensive, too. Yesterday, I recommended Sticky Note Therapy to a client navigating divorce. “Buy some sticky notes (Post-it notes). Get a color you love. Write compelling, nurturing, and uplifting messages on them. Plaster them all over your house, your garage, your car, your bike, your […]
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