Divorce has been called a battlefield – that may be true. But it’s also a very long walk. If you find yourself experiencing something more like a pilgrimage, then my advice to you is this: Be sure to surround yourself with real, loving support. Now you may say, “Of course my family is here for […]
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Who Are You After Divorce? 6 Steps to Claiming Your New Identity
After a divorce, many individuals ask, “Who am I now?” Follow these steps to finally having a positive outlook on life and claiming your new identity.
How to Transmute Anger into Gold During and After Divorce
An intense emotional response, anger is a normal emotion that involves a strong uncomfortable and emotional response to a perceived provocation. Is your divorce-related anger healthy or unhealthy?
5 Co-Parenting Tips from a Divorced Divorce Attorney
Not only have I been practicing high-conflict divorce for 18 years, I am also a divorced father of two teenagers. At the moment, my ex and I are in a “good place” and our children are doing well. Here are a few tips I have learned from my practice and personal experience that might prove […]
5 Facts About Divorcing a Narcissistic Psychopath
First of all, if you are divorcing a Narcissist, a Psychopath, or a Narcissistic Psychopath, keep your expectations low! Most people hear the word “psychopath” or “sociopath” and immediately think of a serial killer, callous criminal, violent rapist, or someone who’s completely deranged. (Learn the difference between a sociopath and psychopath here.) Much like autism, […]
Self Help or Therapy: How to Embrace Both
Years before I was a licensed counselor, I wrote non-fiction books. A few landed on the bookstore’s self-help, parenting, or psychology shelves. Devouring such books led me to both of my careers, and when I meet with clients who feel stuck, I sometimes recommend reading, and other self-help measures. I’ve gained a better understanding of […]
WATCH: Divorcing a Narcissist and Gas-Lighting
Rebecca Fein, a certified relationship and bereavement coach, co-author of a book called Contagious Optimism, and a regular blogger for DivorceMag.com, explains the challenges of divorcing a narcissist, and the gas-lighting technique.
Rituals to Balance Your Life
Many years ago I had the opportunity to travel to Peru with an anthropologist friend. I spent over a week in the mountains where I watched the native people perform rituals. I was taken with how much attention they paid to detail no matter how big or small the task at hand. Whether making dinner […]
Dealing with a Difficult Ex
Many who are separated or divorced consider their ex to be pesky at one time or another. After all, you no longer live together presumably because you have two different world views and/or tensions have crept into your working relationship. An isolated disagreement or a harsh word between the two of you does not qualify […]
Writing Was My Lifesaver
Writing was my lifesaver. It helped me make sense of the tornado that had swept through my life. Whether you like to write or hate it, I urge you to keep a notebook by your bed and one in your purse or pocket.
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