We all know it’s hard to get over a divorce. There’s obviously a bunch of legal issues you have to deal with, but even worse, is that it’s hard to meet women!
Well, thanks to the advent of dating applications like Tinder, Bumble, Plenty of Fish, and others, it’s now becoming easier and easier to start meeting women after a divorce.
How to Use Dating Apps to Bounce Back After A Divorce
With that in mind, I’d like to cover the following topics today:
- The 3 Best Dating Apps for Divorced Men
- The #1 Dating App to AVOID After A Divorce
- How to Start Meeting Women from Dating Apps
So, with that in mind, let’s get to it.
3 Best Dating Apps for Divorced Men
It’s no secret that meeting women after a divorce can be hard… and even with a lot of great mobile apps for divorced men, the question still remains: what are the best dating apps?
In my experience, here are the best dating apps for divorced men:
There’s a ton of other dating apps out there, like Plenty of Fish, OK Cupid, and more, but in my humble opinion, these are the best dating apps for a few reasons.
First off, they’re readily available and don’t require any sort of payment. A lot of dating applications hide behind hidden membership fees, and “unlockable features.”
Second, these dating apps are widely used by numerous women across the country. It doesn’t do you any good to be on an old dating app (like OK Cupid) that nobody uses anymore.
Third, these apps give you a great opportunity to meet women who are either single and ready to mingle or are looking for a longer-term companionship.
The #1 Dating App to Avoid
Even more important than knowing what dating apps to seek out, is knowing which dating apps to AVOID! Fortunately, there’s not that many, but there’s one, in particular, I want to talk about.
The biggest dating app, if you can even call it that, for divorced men to avoid is called “Seeking Arrangements.” It’s been gaining in popularity recently, but it’s still not a good choice.
Seeking Arrangements is basically a dating app for younger women, who are seeking older men with a lot of money… and while it may be tempting to get some immediate companionship after a divorce, I would strongly caution you against this.
Most of the women on Seeking Arrangements aren’t looking for anything serious. They’re looking for older men to give them money, and oftentimes, in exchange for nothing.
Divorce can be stressful enough, and you don’t want to have to deal with anything else draining your finances and your time. So, in my opinion, it’s best you avoid this app at all costs.
How to Meet Women with Dating Apps
Now, onto the good part – meeting women after a divorce. Leveraging dating applications can be a great way to date more girls and bounce back after a nasty divorce, but you need to know how to use them properly.
Over the past few years, I’ve tested numerous profiles, opening lines, and bios on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, and I’ve devised a simple formula to succeed at these apps.
Most of it comes down to having the right profile, which I want to focus on today. If you have a good dating app profile, this will do 90% of the work for you.
There are 3 pictures you should have on your dating app profile:
- The “Good Looks” Picture
- The “Fun Life” Picture
- The “Sweetheart” Picture
Just using one of these pictures is powerful enough to net you a lot of dates, but when you use all three of them in conjunction, you’ll be getting more dates than you know what to do with.
The “Good Looks” Picture
Like it or not, dating apps are primarily visual. In other words, it doesn’t matter if you have the most charming, charismatic personality of all time – if your pictures suck, you won’t get dates.
That’s why it’s so important to put a good set of pictures in your dating profile. For this one, in particular, you’ll want to focus on flexing your looks a bit.
If you’re physically fit, I advise you to show it off. Don’t take a “mirror selfie,” though – this comes off as way trying too hard and a sign of not having anyone you can ask to take a decent picture. You want it to look more “natural” like you’re just having fun.
Instead, opt for a picture of you at the beach, the pool, or outdoors somewhere. It’s really simple, but when you’ve got a picture like this on your profile, some women love it.
If you’re not physically fit, get a well-lit picture of your face. It doesn’t matter if you’re not stunningly handsome because most women are attracted to more than looks. Just a nice picture of you smiling, with high resolution, will do wonders.
The “Fun Life” Picture
As much as looks matter on dating profiles, there’s something else that matters almost as much; you having a fun life.
People want to date other people who are having fun. Sure, it’s great to date someone that’s good-looking, but good looks can only take you so far.
I recommend you put at least one picture on your profile, of you having fun. It can be anything – at a concert, at a bar, traveling, going skydiving, spending time with your children, or whatever!
The point is that you want to show the potential women you might date, that you have a fun life. Even if you’re not physically stunning, living a fun life can still be a huge turn-on for some women.
The “Sweetheart” Picture
Alright, now for the final touch to your dating profile. Like I said before, looks matter a lot, but girls who are looking for something more serious will be searching for this type of picture.
The goal of the “sweetheart” picture, is to simply show that you have a heart – that’s it. While this may seem obvious, most guys on Tinder and Bumble don’t do this.
The sweetheart picture can be anything that shows you’ve got an emotional side. It can be a picture of you and your mom, or maybe a picture of you kissing your son’s forehead.
Whatever it is, a picture like this will work like wildfire at attracting some women. Any girl who’s on Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge, who’s looking for something serious, will swipe right at this if what you write in your profile aligns with her morals and belief system.
The Bottom Line
In summary, it can sometimes be difficult to bounce back after a divorce. Dating applications offer a unique opportunity for you to meet and date women, with very little effort.
I recommend you stick to the big three: Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. Avoid dating apps centered around the idea of getting a “sugar baby,” even though it may be tempting.
If you use these three pictures I discussed here, you will have no shortage of women beating down your door, wanting to go on a date with you.
I hope you enjoyed the article, and if you believe I left anything out, feel free to let me know in the comments section down below. Happy hunting, guys!
Jon Anthony is a dating coach, whose work has been featured on Menprovement, Girls Chase, Good Men Project, and more. www.masculinedevelopment.com
Hi Jon. Any advice on dating while you’re processing a divorce? I’m trying Bumble and really like it. Lots of good quality women. Lots of matches. And lots of potential dates. I don’t hang an “I’m still married. Please swipe left or remain 10 ft. away” sign around my neck. But early in the dialog, before meeting a woman on a date, I truthfully disclose my status. That I’m not looking for hookups, but neither am I sitting alone on Friday nights twiddling my thumbs. As you can imagine, mileage varies depending on the woman. Some get pissed and accuse me of leading them on. Others are totally cool and thank me for my honesty (and some will even go on dates). There’s no “Tweener” status choice on Bumble and intro character count is limited. Any additional “etiquette” advice, or recommendations for “Tweener” sites for guys who aren’t interested in cheater sites like Ashley Madison (and bucketloads of scam profiles)? Thanks.